Week Eighteen

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it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Week Seventeen

Posted on Jan 3, 2017 | No Comments
it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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happy new year. xo

 

Week Sixteen

Posted on Dec 31, 2016 | No Comments
it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Week Fifteen

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it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Week Fourteen

Posted on Dec 31, 2016 | No Comments
it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Week Thirteen

Posted on Dec 31, 2016 | No Comments
it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Week Twelve

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it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Week Eleven

Posted on Nov 23, 2016 | No Comments
it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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rested

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balance

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Week Ten

Posted on Nov 16, 2016 | No Comments
it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.   e.e. cummings

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Posted on Nov 11, 2016 | No Comments

I am on Facebook a lot. It is one component of my job. Lately, I very much wish I didn’t have to be. Those who really know me, know that I do not think serious political conversations and opinions belong on social media, especially Facebook. I am of the opinion that face-to-face conversations offer truth and honesty. Facebook should never be considered a reputable news source. It’s structure allows mistruths and embellished stories. It is a great place however, to connect with friends and family, share work, photos, accomplishments and often humor. And, it is for those reasons that I am there.

This is where I am today.

Hate and judgement. That is what my news feed has become. As part of regular posting, folks in my feed write updates that aren’t always sun and roses.  Over the years I have seen things like, ‘I spilled my coffee all over the car’, ‘or the dog threw up on the carpet AGAIN’. I get it, and we all share our similar experiences, wish each other a better day and go about our business.

There have also been the darker posts. For years friends have posted stories where the customer service rep, doctor, guy in traffic, neighbor, and kid in the school have been less than helpful or unkind. In these instances, they share their experience, but find it necessary to belittle and assign inappropriate names to those they are writing about. Do we all get frustrated? Sure. Did they say something we disagree with? Maybe. Does this give us permission to judge, show disrespect or even hate for others when we know nothing about them; their background, their struggle, their fight? Was their behavior related  to a spouse losing a job, or because they filed a restraining order that day, or they feel helpless as their child is bullied? Has anyone ever considered those questions?

The irony here, is that people who feel that disparaging remarks and name-calling is ok, are now demanding fairness, kindness, and love. But they don’t mean for everyone, and certainly not for the person who doesn’t agree with them. These are the same adults who called fellow human beings ass, fool, idiot or worse. Men and women who say, if you don’t agree with me, you must be XYZ and so we are not friends. Don’t believe me? Go back in your feed. Have a look. This is frightening and far worse than any election outcome.

When I was in kindergarten and probably even before, (a very long time ago btw) I was taught to respect others. Always. Every day, no matter who they are. Everyone. There was never room for hate. In my day-to-day life I give love and support equality, and take the extra step toward kindness. But I mean for everyone. Not just those who share my views.

Please, consider your words when you post. They travel further than you realize.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. ~ Mother Teresa

 I have no plans to unfriend anyone. Your life experiences make you who you are. And, I will not judge.  But, I will hide your posts until the hate stops. I have chosen to not take part in that.